For more than 35 years, I have worked with individuals, couples, families, and even within business relationships. Over that time, I have authored eight books several of them best-sellers on relationships, healing, and personal transformation.
In the first half of my career, I practiced as a traditional psychotherapist. While I valued the work, I found myself frustrated with the limits of the results. People could gain insight into their issues, yet lasting transformation often seemed just out of reach.
That began to change 18 years ago when I began working with a process called Inner Bonding a powerful six-step method of psychological and spiritual healing. Through this process, I discovered something essential: real healing is not possible without a direct, personal connection to a source of spiritual guidance.
Why Spiritual Connection Matters
Everyone on a path of recovery whether from alcohol, drugs, food issues, overspending, gambling, sex, television, codependency, or any other addiction knows they cannot heal without some connection to their Higher Power.
Yet many find that connection elusive. I often work with people who have participated in Twelve Step programs for years, only to admit they’ve never truly felt a direct, personal experience of Spirit. And yet, we all long for it: a direct line to our spiritual guidance an inner compass that helps us stay clear in our decisions, set boundaries, maintain emotional balance, and manifest the life we truly want.
It is our birthright to connect with God or whatever name you give to the divine at will, every day. Surprisingly, this is not nearly as difficult as most people think. The key lies in understanding one crucial element: frequency.
Understanding Spiritual Frequency
The spiritual realm exists at a higher frequency than the dense physical plane we inhabit on Earth. To access it, we need to raise our own energetic frequency.
Think of walking into a room where people are joyful, loving, and open. The atmosphere feels light, buoyant, uplifting that is a high frequency. Now picture a room filled with tension, anger, or hostility. The air feels heavy, constricted that is a low frequency.
When our frequency is low, our spiritual connection is fuzzy or blocked. When it is high, it becomes easier to access guidance, inspiration, and a sense of peace.
The Role of Intent
Here’s the most important truth I’ve learned: Nothing will raise your frequency unless you have the right intent.
At any moment, we operate from one of two possible intentions:
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The Intent to Learn – Being open to Spirit’s guidance about how to love yourself and others; taking responsibility for your feelings and actions; seeking truth.
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The Intent to Protect and Avoid – Trying to shield yourself from pain, avoid responsibility, and control outcomes or other people’s behavior, often through addictive behaviors or defensive patterns.
When we choose protection over learning, we close our hearts. We block the very energy we need for healing. No prayer, meditation, chant, or ritual will work if our underlying intent is to control or avoid. Spirit cannot move through a closed heart.
Choosing the intent to learn automatically raises your frequency. Once your heart is open, the tools and practices below become truly effective.
Practices to Raise Your Frequency and Connect with Spirit
Once you’ve committed to the intent to learn, these actions can further elevate your vibration and strengthen your connection to spiritual guidance:
1. Move Into Your Imagination
Your imagination is a sacred gift from God a channel for creativity, insight, and divine communication. At first, it may feel like you’re “making things up,” but if you trust the process, you’ll begin to recognize that the images, ideas, and sensations flowing through you are not from you, but through you.
2. Keep Your Body Clear
Your body is an energetic system. Heavy, processed, or chemically-laden foods, along with drugs, alcohol, nicotine, and excess caffeine or sugar, can cloud your energy and lower your frequency. Clear, nourishing foods support clarity of mind and spirit.
3. Pray with Sincerity
Heartfelt prayers of gratitude and requests for healing of all blocks to love can dramatically shift your vibration.
4. Use Repetition: Chants and Mantras
Repetitive sacred sounds whether chanted, sung, or spoken help open you to higher states of consciousness.
5. Move Your Body with Rhythm
Dance, drumming, or other repetitive movements such as those in Native American traditions can elevate your energy and open you to spiritual flow.
6. Spend Time in Nature
Nature vibrates at a higher frequency than most human-made environments. Forests, oceans, rivers, mountains, deserts each offers a cleansing, uplifting influence.
7. Listen to Uplifting Music
Classical, spiritual, and other harmonious forms of music can subtly raise your state.
8. Engage in Creativity
Art, writing, music, and other creative pursuits naturally raise your vibration by engaging your imagination and life-force energy.
9. Purify Your Space
Use incense or “smudging” (burning sage, cedar, or lavender) to clear stagnant energy and invite higher vibrations into your environment.
10. Light Candles
A simple flame has been used for centuries in spiritual practice to symbolize clarity, illumination, and connection to the divine.
Living with the Question: What Is My Intent?
The simplest ongoing practice is to check in with yourself throughout the day:
“What is my intent right now? Am I trying to control or avoid, or am I open to learning how to love myself and others?”
This single question can shift your inner state. Over time, it will help you experience, see, hear, and feel your spiritual guidance more clearly and consistently.
Final Reflection
Your connection to spiritual guidance is not a privilege reserved for a select few it is your birthright. By consciously choosing the intent to learn, raising your frequency, and practicing these steps, you create an open channel for Spirit’s love, wisdom, and power to flow into your life.
In that space of openness, guidance stops being a distant hope and becomes a living, daily experience.
